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Hey Sis...let's talk about complaining

"Wherefore, my beloved, as you have always obeyed, not as in my presence only, but now much more in my absence, work. out your own salvation with fear and trembling. For it is Ahlahayam which workethin you bothto will and to do of his good pleasure. That you may be blameless and harmless, the sons of Ahlahayam, without rebuke, in the midst of a crooked and perverse nation, among whom you shine as lights in the world; Holding forth the word of life; that I may rejoice in the day of Mashayach, that I have not run in vain neither laboured in vain. " Phillipians 2:12-16

This morning I was doing my usual social media scrolling and I came across a few posts about women complaining. They were complaining about how they work AND take care of a household, and yet their husbands don't help out. They were mentioning how TIRED they were and were wanting advice on how to get their husbands to do more around the home. As much as I can relate to such things, I also have to say that it's out of order. Of course I know that these women were venting their frustrations. Everyone does it. I myself am guilty of doing so too. But unfortunately on social media was the wrong place to do such a thing. 

Ladies complaining is something that we shouldn't be least not on social media. Do we need to vent? Absolutely! But just like anything else, there is a time and a place for it. One of the biggest complaints I see is women wanting men to help out in the house. Ladies, let me be very blunt. Your man has a job. His job is to be your provider and protector. His job is never ending, and requires full time attention. You may not like to hear this, but housework isn't part of that job description. If you're wanting a traditional man with traditional values, you have to follow the traditional rules. As Romans 12: 2 says "And be not conformed to this world; but be you transformed by the renewing of your mind, that you may prove what is good, and acceptable, and perfect will of Ahlahayam."

I'm not saying that you have to upend your current lifestyle. No what I'm saying is that you can't be expecting a man to do what is in your job description. If you're a wife, your job is to maintain the home. A lot of women say that they are Proverbs 31 women. Well, the Proverbs 31 woman maintained the home AND worked outside of it. I'm just saying...

Here's a few tips that have helped me out especially when being overwhelmed:

1. Make a schedule - Make a schedule for what needs to be done each day whether it's cooking/cleaning or whatever recurring activity that you may have. 

2. If you have children who are over a certain age...put them to work! Make a simple list of things that they can do in order to help maintain the house because they do need to learn these things. 

3. Not everything needs to get done in a day. The schedule will tackle every chore on a particular day. 

4. This should've been number one, but stay in your Word and prayer. Life happens and you can't rely on the world to get you thru it. Only rely on the Most High when it comes to these matters. He will guide you thru it. 

Have a great day Sis! 


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